Why Do You Like Them?

Something I hear people say all the time is that they hate when they like someone and other people say “Ew, why would you like them?”

Since, I’ve gotten with him, that’s all I’ve heard. Negative. Negative. Negative.

He’s too old for you – he’s 18, I’m 16. Our birthdays are on the same day, we are exactly 2 years apart.

He lives too far away – Yes, the 1,000+ mile distance is a long ways, but really is the potential love of my life not worth it?

He’s going to leave soon – He’s starting basics for the Army in December, so yes, he will be leaving, but I respect the reason he’s leaving for.

 These are all things I’ve heard before, and continue to hear, plus ones not listed. I have friends I rant to specifically about him, but obviously other stuff too. We’ll call them Lindsey and Brittany. Well, Lindsey and Brittany only hear the bad things, because who really wants to listen to their friend say, “Oh my gosh, he’s so perfect! He’s so adorable! Look at this goodnight text he sent me last night!” Right? Nobody wants to listen to that, so I of course tell them only the bad. From day one Lindsey has said she “doesn’t like him” and “doesn’t understand why I would like someone like him”

Because sure, he has his faults. He’s kind of a jackass, he has more insecurities than I can count, he’s guarded, he’s been suffering with depression and anxiety for 5+ years, he’s dealt with prescription drug addiction, he drives way too fast on the freeway, he’s reckless and carefree, he’s insane and drives me insane.

But with each one of those faults there are 20 more reasons I love him.

He’s sweet, he’d do anything to protect the ones he loves, he’s protective, he’s so funny, etc. Etc. You’d rather hear the bad things than the good things I’m assuming.

The point is, don’t judge people and who they’re into.

Everything you have done, make up who you are currently, and somebody will love all of you. Your faults, your successes, your failures…all of it.

 

With me and my boyfriend, we’ve had our ups and downs. We’ve dealt with things separately that have affected our relationship negatively, and we’ve dealt with things together that have affected our relationship negatively. Nobody will have a perfect relationship, but I believe that if two people are meant to be with each other they’ll find a way back to each other.